Even though I work with highly productive and successful people, the one recurring theme I see in most of them, is the underlying and powerful energy of NOT feeling enough!
No matter how successful, talented, famous, or gorgeous, so many people have that persistent voice inside their head that says "I'm afraid that if they knew everything about me, they'd stop loving me" or "they'll find out soon that I am a fake" or "this is all too good to be true, it's gotta fall apart soon." The voice is REAL, but the message couldn't be further from truth.
Somewhere deep down, at times in our life, we have all felt that we are somehow faulty and that if people knew the truth, we would not be loved and embraced. If we shared our insecurities, fears, and deep secrets, people would run the other way.
While there could be some truth to this, because there may be certain people who can't handle transparency, we are all getting to the place in our lives and in the world, where being anything but vulnerable, translucent, and raw, is exhausting and meaningless.
Some people liken it to wearing a mask. God knows, I wore a mask for years and still find myself learning to trust that it's safe to be fully me in the world.
Maybe your friends know your deepest fears but you wouldn't dare share it with your co-workers. Perhaps your spouse is familiar with your past struggles but you believe that your corporate clients will never hire you back if they knew the full story.
Tom Hanks, Lady Gaga, and Tina Fey are just a few celebrities who have admitted to feeling like a fraud and that any day now, people will find out that they've faked it to the top.
Sometimes, that voice of the imposter doesn't go away entirely, but we can learn to quiet it. The great news is that it doesn't necessarily prevent us from having the success we desire. But it certainly robs us of fully embracing it and feeling the joy!
The most important factor in dealing with our imposter, is to acknowledge and listen and then get busy reminding ourselves that we ARE in fact, amazing and deserving of everything that our heart desires.
We need to recognize that this sabotage is simply a protection mechanism that's sole job is to keep us from being present.
Often the imposter feeds on our insecurities, lack of self-esteem, and it thrives on de-valuing us. That's why our one and only job is to do the inner work, to raise our self-worth and break through the illusion that we aren't enough.
I know for sure that we can diminish this voice and keep it as a background player, while we move on to THRIVE, SUCCEED, and live in THE LIGHT that is our life.
You are more than deserving of having it all!
Repeat after me:
I am worthy.
I am powerful.
I am deserving.
I am enough, exactly as I am.
Love, Jay
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