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EGO - Edging God Out

I recall my favorite spiritual teacher, Wayne Dyer, mentioning that EGO stands for Edging God Out. I have always loved that. Our Ego, when balanced, is an important part of who we are and can give us a healthy sense of self-worth and personal power. When imbalanced, it can cause us to feel less than or better than others. Both are untrue. The truth is, we are ALL equal and yet our Ego loves to separate us from others. Feeling less than, ensures that we stay stuck in comparison mode, always struggling to feel validated, acknowledged and seen. Nothing can ever fill this void. And when our Ego is blown out of proportion, we begin to judge others, believing that we are more important, smarter, and better in some way. Both are run by fear. Fear of intimacy. Fear of stepping into our power. Fear of being seen, fully and completely, raw and vulnerable. Fear of not being loved. The truth is that I spent most of my life feeling unworthy. Constant bullying from kindergarten through high school only magnified my sense of not being good enough. When we are abused in any way, especially as children, we can easily take this energy on and we begin to think there is something wrong with us at our core. Especially if you were a sensitive kid like me, it's almost impossible not to take this energy personally. As we get older, we begin to shift our behavior to accommodate others and as I know all too well, we become people pleasers. Smiling, saying the right things, and putting on a mask in order to fit in. Meanwhile, there is much pain under the surface and it begins to spill over into our day to day lives. We numb out through addictive behaviors, our body begins to react with injury or pain, anxiety and depression, while perfectionism and fatigue become a natural coping mechanism. The craziest part of it all is that this couldn't be further from the truth of who we are. We are vital beings and we are meant to thrive. But early programming and life experience caused us to believe the lie...that somehow we are faulty at our very essence. Stepping into our power can be scary. It means that we need to show up in our life, it means that we need to open our hearts and feel deeply, and that we have no more excuses to live fully. Sometimes it's just easier to remain stuck in feeling sorry for ourselves and re-living the same patterns over and over again. The people I work with however, are ready. They are motivated to feel better! They have been paralyzed for far too long in a perpetual pattern of self-judgment, self-loathing, and victim mentality that they will do almost anything to break the cycle. The beauty of this reconnection to our true self is that the more we can feel the energy of our unworthiness, the easier it gets to move through to a healthy place of valuing ourselves, honoring our lives and trusting that we are perfect exactly as we are. Even if things aren't going as well as you'd like, you can still begin to let go and sink into gentleness and acceptance. Slowly but surely, we stop Edging God Out and we understand that we ARE a part of this God energy. All one. The separation that we have felt slowly begins to melt away, revealing the truth of who we really are. I SEE you! Now it's time for you to see what I and so many others see in you. A beautiful, talented, amazing, unique, and magnificent being who is unlike anybody else on this earth. That's pretty damn special. ;-) Love, Jay


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